There are three types of people you'll come across in your life; the people who stay, the people who leave, and the people who longer. People who leave are pretty easy to distinguish. For the most, they leave your life and disappear completely. If you're not ready for that, you are the one trying to pull them back into your life. You are reaching out, trying to make contact but there really isn't a response. If you're still holding on to a ghost, let them go. People leave your life all the time. As you may not want it, it's time to move them into you're "gone" group. Then we have the people who stay. Again, pretty easy for the most part to understand who they are. These people came into your life, and probably never left once. These are the people you can count on for anything. These people care about you and want the best for you. They will do anything they can to see you smile. If you go to them for something or just to talk, they're there. There's no doubt in your mind these people are in your life. The other type, would be the lingerers. These people are usually hard to determine. They're in and out of your life constantly. Sometimes when you need them, they aren't there. When it's convenient for them, they'll be there for sure and usually with a motive. These people are probably using you for whatever reasons and don't seem to really care. Yet, you let them in every time because it's who you are. I'm here to say, it's ok to let them go. As it's hard, the best thing may be to cut them off. Next time they come around looking for something, don't respond. If you're not good enough any other time, why should you be that one time? Don't be. No one likes people who linger. So change that. People should either be IN or OUT of your life. There is no inbetween. You will find so much more peace in your life when you stop letting people confuse or use you.
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If there's one lesson you will definitely learn in your life at some point, it's that there are people out there who have mastered the role of the "fake friend." These so called friends are good at acting like they care about you and your life, they hang out here and there, and tell you about their problems. These friends seem like any normal friend.
Then, they show their true colors and take off the mask. They disappear from your life. You need them and they are no longer there for you. You try to hang out, but regardless of both of your busy schedules, they make up excuses. They slowly fade from your life without any explanation of why. Throughout life, I have seen plenty of fake friends cross my path. Each friend, like the ones before, just continue to fade from life like they were never even there. Every time, I could not tell you why the friendship ended, or well just disappeared. Certainly not my wanting or doing. Sadly, there is not much you can do about it. These friends are people you thought were cool, people you trusted, people you wanted to spend time with and have a good laugh. They were that, but decided to move on. The person that I am, I try to save these friendships. I'm all about being friends and staying friends. If there is no reason to end it, why should you? Time and time again though, I end up being disappointed in a friendship that wasn't meant to be. So if fixing it is no longer in my future, I do my best to let it go. They must have some reason they don't want to continue the friendship and I try to respect that. As much as it irritates me that I don't understand, I just respect that it's done. Life is all about being the bigger person and moving on with your life. Dwelling on the past was never said to be a way to spend our time. So anytime I come across people like this, I simply move on from it. If there is a chance of rekindling in the future, I will take it. Otherwise, the past is the past. Glasses. Aren't those for nerds? Nope not anymore.
Glasses have become more popular with this generation and they're no longer something to make fun of. Some even buy frames with fake lenses just for the sake of fashion. As you may not want to wear glasses everyday, having them as an option is a great idea. This is why it's a pretty sweet idea to be both four and two eyes. 1. They're an accessory. Yes they are used for vision correction, but they're also a fashion statement. Glasses can help pull an outfit or look together. Did you ever notice that? 2. You look more intelligent. Pretty obvious I think. For whatever unknown reason, we as people think that glasses make a person look smart and more intelligent than without them. That's always a plus if you're on the ditzy side! 3. You don't have to be blind. If you're not really a contacts person, or maybe just have slightly off vision, glasses are a cute upgrade. Who would have thought glasses improved vision? 4. Guys like a girl in glasses. It's true. Guys have a thing for glasses on girls. Want a new guy to notice you? Invest in some flashy glasses to make your face pop. He'll love it! 5. They're sexy. If you don't care what others think, try them out for you! They can upgrade you from cute to sexy just like that. 6. You feel like a new and different person. Glasses can not only make you look different, but make you feel different. They can help you feel smart, empowered, sexy. Feel like a whole new person with them! Be proud to wear glasses, it's a new time and they're in now. This is for all the genuinely nice people out there. The people who are nice to everyone, unless someone does something to hurt them. The ones who will still treat you nicely even if you're a shitty person toward them. If you are this person, welcome to the club. Where you just want everyone to get along but people keep shutting you down. Oh and we are also known as the door mats, please step all over us and wipe your feet on the way through. If you know exactly what I'm talking about, it's a rough world out there. You see and experience altercations every day but you're looking to get past them and just be happy. You'd rather be friends or at least civil with others because confrontation bothers you. Unfortunately the world we live in can't give you that. No matter how hard you try, there will be people who thrive on drama, or they just cant seem to find it in them to move on. We peace keepers are still wishing and trying for the world where people put aside first impressions or mistakes and get on with their lives. Sadly, we still wait. Good and bad, this is what we deal with in life. 1. We mess up and it haunts us forever. When we would love to just get past a mistake we made and live life, the others won't let us. They hold this against us and don't let us redeem ourselves. 2. We'll be known as door mats. We get walked all over. We put nice first because we don't want to have to be mean. Mean is left for after we stick up for ourselves and that doesn't go well. People take advantage of the that. 3. We're very polite. We don't really care if you're a dick, we still will please and thank you the shit out of a conversation. Our cheery tone will also be used, don't you worry about that. 4. People label us as friendly. We are usually called friendly and others often admire that we can be so nice to people who don't always deserve it. High five! 5. We seem to lose often. Since we are striving for everyone to get along, we find ourselves losing. We realize we can't fix all relationships between people so we feel like we have failed. 6. It's just who we are. Deep down, we know the ups and downs to who we are. Although it may suck sometimes, we're not changing and will forever keep trying. First off, I just want to say that you should never change because someone else thinks you should or wants you to. It may be tempting to make someone happy but if you are not happy with the changes you'd be making, then don't even think about it.
So change. Change is good. Change happens all the time. People are changing all the time whether they know it or not. Change is a part of life that we do have to learn to deal with and accept it. We cannot change, change. Whoaaaa. What are we talking about again? To want to make changes in your life is a normal, healthy thing; unless of course the change is bad. Wanting to change for the better is a good thing. You should be looking to better yourself all the time. Learn to love yourself, but if you want to be a better you, you have to make those changes on your own. Making changes is never easy; you want to be more caring, less jealous, look different, become smarter, or be happier. Any changes you want to make to your life do not come easy, otherwise, you would already naturally be that way. We have to want the change and make it happen. From experience, changing those little things can take a long time, sometimes they don't even completely change. Sometimes, you must settle for what you are or how much you've changed thus far, because to change more would just not be you. Saying that, don't get way too caught up in making changes. Trying to change so many things about yourself will only drive you crazy, not to mention turn you into a completely different person. So don't be afraid to change for you, wanting to better yourself is a normal thing. The struggle to reach that "you" is a long road though. Be ready to travel down the long, bumpy path to become the person you ultimately want to be. During this adventure, don't forget, accepting who you are and loving it is all part of the journey to becoming who you want to be in life. |
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