It's so refreshing to live in this day and age where people are more open to different lifestyles and opinions. As we, as a generation, open up our minds to different races and sexual orientations, we also open our minds to different kinds of dating styles and relationships.
I'm newly 24 and I'm single AF, that's OK though. As much as I'd like to go home to a man every night to eat dinner with, watch a little TV and cuddle with to sleep, I'm not gonna settle on someone.
I refuse to be that lonely, desperate chick who agrees to be someone's girlfriend because all of my friends are in relationships, or I want a constant cuddle buddy. I'd much rather be that independent woman who doesn't need a man (well, until she's ready.)
So until then, I'm exploring my options and doing whatever the hell makes me happy. What is that exactly?
I'm dating around, not committing myself to one person. If I wanna talk to guy #1 and hang out with guy #2 later, that's what I'm gonna do. Like it or not, I'm doing what makes me happy this time around. Why should I limit myself to one man if they nor I know what we want for the time being? Why should we force relationships that we know won't last?
Dating multiple guys at a time doesn't make you a slut. Dating multiple guys at the same time, when one person is not aware or not OK with it, makes you a slut. It's all about the context clues.
Being single in your 20s, you don't want to miss out on anything. You feel this is your last chance to be young and free, so that's exactly what you want to be. Trying to date one guy at a time and failing each time is exhausting and a waste of time. The last thing you want to do is turn 30 and have nothing to show for it.
Seeing whoever you want, whenever you want opens so many possibilities for you. You can date two different guys, who are complete opposites of each other, and test out what makes you happy. You can have your nice, romantic type while you have your bad, down-to-earth type too. Yes, you can have your cake and eat it too, if you know what I mean.
Learning the type of guy you want to spend the rest of your life with is important. Experimenting with different guys will help with this. Not settling is even more important. Don't limit yourself if you don't want to be limited, it's that simple.
You'll know when it's the right time to be tied down to one guy. Until then, have fun and be safe, my wild and adventurous ladies. There's a sea full of men out there just waiting to bite.
Chelsea Blake: My views on life and writing whatever my heart desires.