It's so refreshing to live in this day and age where people are more open to different lifestyles and opinions. As we, as a generation, open up our minds to different races and sexual orientations, we also open our minds to different kinds of dating styles and relationships.
I'm newly 24 and I'm single AF, that's OK though. As much as I'd like to go home to a man every night to eat dinner with, watch a little TV and cuddle with to sleep, I'm not gonna settle on someone.
I refuse to be that lonely, desperate chick who agrees to be someone's girlfriend because all of my friends are in relationships, or I want a constant cuddle buddy. I'd much rather be that independent woman who doesn't need a man (well, until she's ready.)
So until then, I'm exploring my options and doing whatever the hell makes me happy. What is that exactly?
I'm dating around, not committing myself to one person. If I wanna talk to guy #1 and hang out with guy #2 later, that's what I'm gonna do. Like it or not, I'm doing what makes me happy this time around. Why should I limit myself to one man if they nor I know what we want for the time being? Why should we force relationships that we know won't last?
Dating multiple guys at a time doesn't make you a slut. Dating multiple guys at the same time, when one person is not aware or not OK with it, makes you a slut. It's all about the context clues.
Being single in your 20s, you don't want to miss out on anything. You feel this is your last chance to be young and free, so that's exactly what you want to be. Trying to date one guy at a time and failing each time is exhausting and a waste of time. The last thing you want to do is turn 30 and have nothing to show for it.
Seeing whoever you want, whenever you want opens so many possibilities for you. You can date two different guys, who are complete opposites of each other, and test out what makes you happy. You can have your nice, romantic type while you have your bad, down-to-earth type too. Yes, you can have your cake and eat it too, if you know what I mean.
Learning the type of guy you want to spend the rest of your life with is important. Experimenting with different guys will help with this. Not settling is even more important. Don't limit yourself if you don't want to be limited, it's that simple.
You'll know when it's the right time to be tied down to one guy. Until then, have fun and be safe, my wild and adventurous ladies. There's a sea full of men out there just waiting to bite.
Nobody's perfect, and nobody's always on time, right? Right. We all have our flaws and one of mine is turning off alarms in my sleep.
Working at 7am is early, I get up around 5am to make sure I do everything I need. Sometimes, it takes a toll on my sleep schedule and I progressively lose sleep. My tiredness overcomes me and I want sleep over anything. Therefore, bye bye alarms!
Today, I awoke at 6am, frantically, realizing I slept in an entire hour. I had planned on waking up to wash my hair since I hadn't since Saturday. Well, there was no time. I had to make do with my time and get out the door.
I can go a day without washing my hair, but 2? On the second day without a wash, my hair is screaming WASH ME, yeah you could write that with the grease from my hair. Gross.
Since I had to deal with this all day at work, I documented my thoughts throughout the day. Anyone feel me? -dirty hair girl
6am: Shit, shit. I over slept. Typical Monday.... Wait, there's no time to wash my hair...I haven't washed it since Saturday.. Oh noooo.
6:30am: I have to leave for work, this will do. Half a bottle of baby powder should hold me until 3:30, right?
7:10am: I'm touching my hair, DON'T TOUCH IT.
7:45am: I can feel the grease overcoming me, I won't give in.
8:52am: I touched my hair again, ugh. Can’t keep my hands to myself.
9:05am: Why are hats not ok to wear to work?
9:14am: Oh no, my head is itchy!!
10:25am: Dreaming of a shower
10:54am: I've seen my bosses more than ever today, of course. They probably think I don't shower.
11:28am: Mirror check! Ok, not so bad, very flat, but not bad. I need volume, and a shower.
1:12pm: Just a few hours left, please hair, don't let me down.
3:03pm: Another mirror check, oh god it's getting awful.
3:30pm: I made it through work, yes. I'm getting closer!
4:04pm: Why did I think it was a good idea to go to the grocery store? I'm THAT dirt ball.
5:10pm: Well shit, I should work out before I shower. Procrastinaaaation.
5:54pm: That's it, this can't happen again!
6:05pm: I’m hungry. Food first always, then I’ll wash my hair.
6:47pm: YES! CLEAN. HAIR. I am a goddess. Worship me.
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While talking with a girl friend last night about everything and anything, we got onto the subject of beauty. Let's be honest, do girls not bring up lipstick and skin care products at least once in a conversation?
Among all of the eyeliner, lipstick, and hair talk, we got into contouring. Mind you, neither of us contour our faces and never plan to, that's just not our style.
I feel I should say I have no problem with anyone who contours their face. I think it takes some serious talent to apply all the right kinds of makeup and transform your face. It can look pretty sweet done correctly too. Props to you ladies!
However, I have no interest in learning or even trying to contour my face. There are so many things that come along with that and I'm not prepared to take it all on! If rather sit over, behind in the times.
So for those interested, this is why I will never contour my face.
1. Expenses $$$
As I'm no stranger to spending money on clothes or makeup products to up my look, I can't justify to myself the money I would spend on all of the makeup it takes to contour. In this case, I'm a little too cheap.
2. Lack of makeup talent
I'm far from a cosmetologist. When it comes to makeup, I love it and I do use what I would consider a decent amount. However, you won't see any fancy makeup skills used on my face, it's too hard!
3. Time consumption
I don't contour and I already take way too much time to get ready in the mornings. To add contouring on to my routine, I'm sure if have to wake up 3 hours before leaving the house. 4AM? No thanks.
4. Day to day maintenance
Once I start, I can't stop. I couldn't just contour my face 3/7 days of the week and have plain face the rest. That's a pretty drastic change and I wouldn't want to put everyone through the confusion of who I am.
5. When the trend fades
What happens when contouring is no longer in? Do you just wake up one day and not do it? Then it's like, "oh, this is what my face looks like?" Or do you just eliminate a little each day? What do you do?!?
6. I touch my face too much
I have a bad habit of touching or wiping my face through out the day. If I had that amount of makeup on it, I'd look like a cake face monster.
7. Damn acne
I still break out at 23 and I'm pissed about it. I don't want another reason for it.
8. That natural look
Yes, I wear makeup. Yes, you can probably tell. I'm more of a subtle face makeup kind of person though. I'll go more out on my eyes than anything else. Also, I don't wanna cover my freckles up!
Sorry guys, but this one, is also for the girls! Something as common as clothes that we use to dress ourselves every day is way more complicated than throwing on whatever we grab out of the closet. For girls, we take it much more seriously than that.
I have a horrible addiction to shopping. Online shopping is my weakness; I find way too many deals on tops and accessories that can spice up my wardrobe! I'm always looking for the newest style to wear and share or to swipe left.
From tops and bottoms, to accessories and shoes, we take pride in our closet. What we wear is who we are and we do not want to be a mistake. So if you think your closet is lacking or needs a new piece, here is what you can absolutely not live without!
The flirty, flowy dress
A must have. You can't wear bottoms with leg holes all the time. A flowy dress can be worn for work (if appropriate), a day in the park with the family, or a night on the town with your girls. Very universal.
Black and/or white jeans
I love my black jeans and have never been opposed to white. Jeans are most commonly blue and it's time to spice it up. Colored jeans can work, but they are a little harder to match. Black and white will go with anything!
Scarves are a great accessory and you can't have just one. You need some for winter, some for summer, and some for always. As plain scarves match a lot, patterned scarf gives your outfit the pop it needed.
Big, flashy earrings
Pierced ears and earrings are in. The more the better. Make sure you have a nice pair of hoops or an elegant, dangly pair to show off your fun side.
A pair of booties
Boots are cute, booties are cuter. Add a pair of booties to your closet and maybe make them heels. They are the only heels I own and I'm in love.
A fun kimono
Nice and cool for the summer, wearable in the spring and fall. A flowery kimono is the perfect coverup.
High waisted shorts/pants
They've come back and they've been here to say for a while now. Pairing high waisted bottoms with a crop top slims your figure more than you'd think.
A comfortable flannel
Everyone owns a flannel. Do you? Flannels are perfect for fall and winter, and you don't look like a country singer in them anymore. Score!
Ok, so this is not necessarily to wear out in public, but no one's stopping you. Big sweats have always been a girls best friend. You don't even have to buy them, steal your boyfriends ;)
A giant sweater/cardigan
In style. Big sweaters are super comfortable and warm so its a win/win. Cardigans should also be a part of your closet for work and fun.
Knee high socks
Guys love them. They keep you warm and give you a sexy look. Pair with a skirt.
As you need several pairs of black, you also need one, unordinary pair. Whether it be flowered, aztec, or galaxy, there's a shirt out there that will match them. Hint: some stores pair those with a matching shirt near by.
You can thank me later.
It's a normal day and you're out to lunch with some friends; catching up and relaxing on your day off. You get a message from one of your bestest, oldest friends who lives hours away from you. You open it and it reads "I'm engaged!" You're overcome with emotions; happiness, a hint of jealousy, excitement. Even in your shocked state of mind, you respond with so many question at hand; where!?, how!?, give me all the details.
As you listen to the amazing story of how she got engaged, you think in the back of your head, "I'm in her wedding right? I have to be a bridesmaid." You don't say a word though, why would you ever want to put your friend under that kind of pressure. This is her wedding, her big day, do not ask/assume aloud to her that you will be one. Be courteous and wait, impatiently.
It's confirmed! You received the package asking you to join her on her big day. You are a bridesmaid in your best friends wedding which you dreamed about since you were a young girl. You knew you'd be by her side on her big day, but it's better not to assume so.
You have duties now. It is your job to get your shit together and be there for her every step of the way. She needs you at 2am to help with a crisis, be there.
Before you even accept this responsibility, you must ask yourself, "Can I mentally and financially do this?"
Being a bridesmaid isn't all fun and games.
There is plenty of planning and money that is put into your job, you should never say yes unless you can 100% do this. When you accept to be apart of the wedding, you are saying you will give time and X amount of money for this wedding. You will need to be there for decisions, dress fittings, parties, planning, and of course, the big day.
The bride will not expect you to be rich,
she herself is probably budgeting for the wedding. You do need to realize though that she will ask of you to spend some money, it's in the job description. You will need anywhere between $100-$500 for your dress, then account in for shoes, alterations, hair and makeup; you may or may not have to buy all of these.
You also need to account for wedding location and parties.
Travel and lodging funds can add up, but there should be plenty of time to save up! Depending on the bride there can be several parties to attend. These parties are Engagement, Bridal, and Bachelorette. The engagement party and bridal shower will both require a gift; use judgement on what gift for which party. The bachelorette party will not, however you will need to spend the most here because you will be paying for most of it. You should also have a gift for the wedding, this gift will be the biggest and most appropriate gift for the bride and groom.You may also need to buy dresses for the party if you do not have ones you can rewear.
It can be a lot of money.
Luckily, the wedding should be at least a year away. This should be enough time to save money here and there to afford your duty. If you cannot afford it, do not say yes. The last thing you want to do is put pressure on the bride when you tell her over and over that you are too poor to pay for everything. Have a private conversation with her and see if you two can figure something out!
Don't forget patience and support.
When saying yes to being a bridesmaid, you must also know that you will need patience. Be patient with the bride and the other bridesmaids, it will go a long way. You will also be a support system. Be positive and open to all decisions and suggestions that the bride has. If there is a crisis or the bride just needs someone to vent to about the pressure and stress of the wedding, it's now your job to be there for her and fix the situation.
Be ready to take on anything.
Speeches, taking care of drunken groomsmen, helping out family members, decorating; you have to take on all tasks. No matter what size the task, you gotta do it.
Can you do it? Say yes!
If you feel you are able to take on all of these responsibilities, say yes! It is now time to be bridesmaid; through the fun times and the stressful. For better or worse, richer or poorer. You may now say I do!!
Chelsea Blake: My views on life and writing whatever my heart desires.