I was recently having a conversation with a friend about love. We discussed her love life, past and present, and how she couldn't believe that she thought she was in love before. The current love she has for her new relationship has surpassed her "old love." I totally understand how she feels. Putting aside those guys I dated for a few weeks or months in high school where "I love you" was just said for the hell of it, how often have I truly loved? Do you only have one true love and never actually loved the others? Or can you love multiple times in life, each love being a different kind of love? Not thinking too much into it, of course I have always cared for my previous boyfriends, but love? I think including my current relationship, I have truly fallen in love twice in life. Did I lie when I said I loved others? No, their love was just more of a friendship type of love. Comparing though, every love is different. You can believe you are in that type of forever love with someone when it doesn't end happily ever after. Love is a complicated thing, it can be so hard to analyze it for what it really is. For me to compare love, I can now see a difference between them. I am not a love expert by any means, but these are the differences I found between old love and true love.
As I may be wrong in some instances, these are reasons I found in my life as to how I can tell the difference. Every love is different, and maybe you loved once and that was enough to tell. Love is different for everyone and everyone loves differently. You just have to figure out for yourself what true love really is.
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There are no good break ups. Someone always ends up hurt over it, everyones not "fine" with it. Following a break up, comes the moving on period.
Everyone has their own way of dealing with a break up and learning to move past it. Typically though, guys deal one way, girls another. As a girl, I have noticed that many girls seem to have the same thought process after a break up. So before another guy calls you a crazy psycho stalking raging bitch whore, remember, you might be one of those. Then again you could just be moving on like the rest us. Here you go, 26 typical thoughts that go through a girls mind after a break up. 1. I'll bombard him with texts and calls, he'll answer soon. 2. He will answer after the 20th call and 37th text, right? 3. I know, I'll text his friends! 4. They like me, one of them will help. They will. 5. Hmm maybe I should stop? 6. Ok, don't wanna seem like a stalker bitch. I'll give him some time. Douchebag. 7. Shit, it's over. 8. Oh my God, I'm gonna cry. I promised I wouldn't waste my tears on him. 9. Ahhhh. I hate him so much. 10. It really is over. What now? I have to tell somebody. I'll text all my friends and see what I should do. 11. Hmm there's more fish in the sea, you'll get over him eventually. Thanks bitches. 12. F*ck it. I'm going to eat this whole pizza, this tub of ice cream, these pickles sound good too, hell I don't care anymore. I'm eating it all! 13. Oh there's wine and liquor. Yeah that too. 14. I'll just watch a movie to get mind off of it. 15. My life is so like the Notebook. We'll be back together in no time. Movies are totally real life. 16. This will all be ok. We could get back together. 17. Then again, there are some sexy guys I could totally hook up with. 18. Alright, time to check out Facebook and Twitter. 19. I know. I'll post a status so everyone knows I'm upset and single. 20. Wait. Who's this bitch talking to my man? Who does she think she is? I better tell him I see what he's doing. 21. Huh, he doesn't care. Cooooool. 22. Whatever, I'll post a sexy selfie, then he'll be jealous. 23. Maybe this isn't as sexy as I thought, damn. 24. He didn't even like it, he's definitely seen it by now! 25. That bastard. I am done! 26. Oh look he texted me, guess he couldn't resist. Communication is the key to a good relationship, right? That's what they say, and I must agree. If you don't have good communication between you and your partner, it gets messy. Someone is putting in more effort than the other, or the communication is just so messed up that neither of you know if you're on the same page or not.
Yes, communication is a must. Where we get confused in this day and age is technology. We almost always have our phones by our side, so why isn't our love interest answering? When it comes to relationships, you need to know your partner. Are they not answering because they're busy? Or ignoring you? Or just have nothing to respond with? If you know this person well enough, you should be able to tell if you're making a big deal out of nothing. Here are some steps to take before you flip out for no reason. (If you're a side ho or bro, do you really need this question answered? No, this is for relationships) Do you know your lover? - You shouldn't even be worrying over this unless this is a relationship. Think about who your partner is. When you two are hanging out, are they a talker or a listener? Maybe they're both. But importantly, who talks the most when the two of you are together? Now, based on your best judgement; You're the talker:
You're the listener:
It's all about knowing your partner. If you know your relationship is solid, don't fret over unanswered texts. Yes, you will every so often. But think about it next time you do, there may be a legit reason you aren't hearing back from them. Ladies, and hopefully some gentlemen, let's get really real and honest for a few minutes. Most of you have a fantasy, a perfect situation of how you'll meet "the one." Well just stop, and in the words of Elsa, let it go. Not everyone marries their high school sweetheart or the dreamy guy/girl you locked eyes with at the office. True, it sometimes happens, but let's just take another look.
Honestly, meeting the one isn't a fairy tale or chick flick movie. It's not always cute and romantic. Maybe the story of how you met isn't the best around. Oh well, that's life. Here are 6 places/situational instances where you are more likely to meet your true love.
There you have it. Stop looking for love in the perfect place. Stop looking for love at all. Get off those dating websites. Love is hiding and will find you, good chance at one of these places! |
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