Ok, so you're in your 20s, and let's also say you're single. You've lived out half of your 20s and have watched your friends and acquaintances your age get married, receive promotions at their dream jobs, and pop out kid or two. Here you are though, slaving away at the job you don't care much for, going home at night to spend time with yourself (or if you're lucky a night with your friends,) to cuddle yourself to sleep just to wake up and do it all again. Yes, I'm talking about my life.
I'm not afraid to admit that I've compared myself to friends and others who are "further" in their lives than I am. Looking at their lives, I would, and still sometimes do, wonder why I'm not there yet. I ask myself, " what did I do in order to fall so behind in life?" Then within the next breath, mentally slap myself across for the face for even letting my mind go there.
Behind in life? Chelsea, what are you even saying? Like, we are not on a strict timeline here where we must be married by this age or we are doomed to be single for life. That's not how life works.
Ok yes, it does seem like a lot of people fall into a certain age range to do the whole marriage and kids thing. That does not mean we all fall into that slot though. Who said being average or " on time" was cool? Certainly not me.
We live in a different time, a different generation. Sure we have friends our age who stick true to the average timeline I've mentioned, but it's ok not to. It is much more acceptable in this day and age to stay single through your 20s than say 50 years ago. The times change and so do we.
Look, our lives all play out differently. We never know what will happen next or even what's right around the corner waiting for us. Comparing ourselves to others is only going to set us back mentally and refrain us from having a good time and moving forward in life. Getting stuck in a rut is the last thing we want at our age. Once we get stuck, it's just all that much harder to get out.
So I'm here to tell you, you are where you are supposed to be in life. Do not let someone else's timeline affect your outlook on your own life. Yes, we may want our lives to be different than they are at this point in life, but we cannot rush that. Also, why rush? We have our entire lives ahead of us to accomplish our goals and wants. There is no reason we have to complete everything before we turn 30. Pump the brakes, sit back for a moment, and enjoy your damn life with where it is right now.
The next time you even try to look at your life and get down about where it is in that moment, remember that you are not alone in thinking that. Remind yourself that you are young and you do have time. Being happy with where you are in life is very important in being able to achieve the next goal you set out to complete. You will get there, all in due time.
Chelsea Blake: My views on life and writing whatever my heart desires.