When you were little, the one law every kid abided by was the pinky promise. If you pinky promised someone they could have your chocolate bar the next day, that was it. Done deal. If you didn't hand over the chocolate the following day you were a liar and a cheater.
Even as adults, we continue on with the pinky promise law. If you promise someone anything at all, we all take that to heart. The same as when we were kids, if a promise is broken, we are hurt and hold that person responsible for not keeping their promise. Promises will always be important to us. That being said, promises and trust are huge in our day to day relationships. Breaking a promise might as well be kissing the trust of someone you love goodbye. I would assume a normal human being would consider promises and trust to be important and valued in their relationships. Compromise. This word contains the word promise within it. You might be thinking "where is she going with this?" No worries, I'm here to explain my reasoning. I was thinking about compromises we make in our lives on any given day. We make compromises within our jobs, with our families, our friends, our lovers, or maybe even someone on the street. Our lives are not perfect; we don't get everything we want, when we want it, and how we want it. If you think about it, we are comprising every day even about the smallest of things. So, linking the two together. When we propose a compromise in our life, we are, in a way, making some sort of a promise to ourselves that we can't have it our way exactly, but we can let some things slide. We are also "promising" the other person/thing that we will understand that every thing is not our way and will do what we can to come to a mutual agreement. I say "promise" because in this instance we are not making a complete promise. If this promise is broken, it is way more understandable and not endangering anyone's trust. With a compromise, we are stating that we will meet someone half way to the best of our abilities, and that they will do the same. Maybe it's just me, but I think this makes total sense. Think about this the next time you make a compromise to meet a friend for lunch, or promise someone you will meet them for a drink next weekend. Does it make sense in your life as I have seemed to connect it to mine?
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Remember 5-10 years ago when you were a teenager, full of so much teenage angst and rage that you didn't know what to do with it all? What an emotional time.
For generation y, it was a great time period to mash our sorrows and music together to feel a certain type of way. We were lucky enough to live as teens in a time when every punk rock/emo band knew exactly how we were feeling. We filled our AIM profiles with their lyrics which matched our lives perfectly. Knowing that these bands knew how we feel made us feel not so alone in our tragic, teenage minds. I credit these songs for holding my hand through my teenage years. How can such tragic songs make you feel better? That one is kinda hard to say. All I know is, sitting in my room, blasting these songs and singing my heart out gave me assurance that it would all get better someday. This is for the ones who were blessed to be in high school during the 2000's. We will never forget these songs that were the anthem of our lives and still to this day touch our heart. We will always remember these lyrics for the hard times in our lives. I dedicate this to you, gen y. 1. Adam's Song - Blink-182 (2000) Granted, I was only 8 when this song was released, but I count it. Really, anything by Blink 182 because they were and still are the shit. AIM Profile Lyric: "I couldn't wait til I got home, to pass the time in my room alone." 2. Hands Down - Dashboard Confessional (2003) "Hands Down" was a little before the teen years, but cut it close. What a beautiful yet tragic song. Every lyric. AIM Profile Lyric: "My hopes are so high, that your kiss might kill me." 3. All That I've Got - The Used (2004) The Used graced us with several songs from In Love and Death that we could connect with and I can say this is the first album that truly came into my teen years. AIM Profile Lyric: "I'll be just fine, pretending I'm not." 4. Ohio is for Lovers - Hawthorne Heights (2004) This entire album was played on repeat going into 7th grade. They quickly became a band I loved and bought their next album when it was released. AIM Profile Lyric: "I can''t make it on my own, because my heart is in Ohio." 5. Apologize - One Republic (2005) Not so much the same feel or genre of the other songs, but a song that spoke to many. AIM Profile Lyric: "I need you like a heart needs a beat, but that's nothin new." 6. Helena - My Chemical Romance (2005) MCR made our heart cry with Gerard's beautiful voice and lyrics. AIM Profile Lyric: "So long and goodnight." 7. Sugar, We're Goin' Down - Fall Out Boy (2005) An extremely popular song, sung by many, and made everyone who didn't know FOB already fall in love with them. AIM Profile Lyric: "I'm just a notch in your bedpost, but you're just a line in a song." 8. Scars - Papa Roach (2005) A song to follow "Last Resort," which almost matched how great of a song that still is AIM Profile Lyric: "And my scars remind me, that the past is real." 9. Swing Life Away - Rise Against (2005) How can you not relate to half of the lyrics in this song? AIM Profile Lyric: "I won't cross these streets until you hold my hand." 10. Smile in your Sleep - Silverstein (2005) Although I didn't understand half the lyrics until I looked them up, a good song none-the-less. AIM Profile Lyric: "And all the times you promised me that everything would work out in the end, you were gravely mistaken." 11. Running From Lions - All Time Low (2005) I fell in love with All Time Low with their song off The Party Scene. They will never top that album, sorry. AIM Profile Lyric: "Get me out of this place, before I cause more damage." 12. The Space Between - Valencia (2006) A band I was introduced to by some old friends, which provided me with some good lyrics to remember. AIM Profile Lyric: "It's amazing how a girl like you, could affect a guy like me." 13. Lying is the Most Fun a Girl Can Have Without Taking Her Clothes Off - Panic! at the Disco (2006) Panic! just loved writing long ass song titles that you could barely get in with one breath. Also, songs about hot hot sex.This album is gold. AIM Profile Lyric: "Let's get these teen hearts beating faster...Will you dance to this beat and hold a lover close?" 14. Three Cheers for Five Years - Mayday Parade (2006) What can I say about Mayday Parade? Many songs and lyrics to touch your heart. Amazing. AIM Profile Lyric: "Another night, another dream wasted on you." 15. Lips of an Angel - Hinder (2006) I can't believe this song is this old. Another song where the lyrics are good, but did they quite match our lives? AIM Profile Lyric: "But girl you make it hard to be faithful, with the lips of an angel." 16. Face Down - The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus (2006) Everyone knew this song, they should have known the whole album. Your Guardian Angel is another not to soon forget. AIM Profile Lyric: "She said, 'This doesn't hurt.'" 17. MakeDamnSure - Taking Back Sunday (2006) TBS gave me a lot of songs from before high school; Cute without the E, You're So Last Summer. This song was a sing-a-long for me and my friends. AIM Profile Lyric: "I'm gonna make damn sure, that you can't ever leave." 18. The Kill - 30 Seconds to Mars (2006) Still love 30 Seconds, that voice, that face. AIM Profile Lyric: "Come break me down, bury me, bury me." 19. It's Not Over - Secondhand Serenade (2007) SS provided us with many ballad type songs with spot on lyrics. AIM Profile Lyric: "We had the chance to make it, now it's over." 20. All Over You - The Spill Canvas (2007) Just a good, relatable song. AIM Profile Lyric: "I'm all over you, I'm not over you." 21. Dear God - Avenged Sevenfold (2008) This song was so different from the rest of Avenged, it really spoke to me. AIM Profile Lyric: "Dear God, the only thing I ask of you, is to hold her when I'm not around." 22. If It Means A Lot To You - A Day to Remember (2009) A song for my senior year that would still touch me to this day. AIM Profile Lyric: "I just feel complete when you're by my side." Coffee, coffee. Gotta have my coffee. OMG for the love of coffee. Do you take coffee to be your husband, to have and to hold, for as long as you both shall live? I do.
I'm a coffee lover along with 75% of the population (unreal statistic) and can't express it enough. The taste is not the only thing that keeps me coming back for me, but the amazing ingredient of caffeine helps me get through the days. Without the components within coffee, I don't know how surviving would go. It'd be a pretty rough world out there full of zombies. Possibly a zombie apocalypse starts because coffee goes extinct?! No, let's not think like that. With my love for coffee and lack of knowing exactly what I want to do in this life, I have the best job that would just make my life complete; opening a coffee shop/cafe. How awesome would it be to own your own cafe? There are so many things that go into opening your very own coffee shop, they all sound fine to me. Finding/building the cutest little place. To find the perfect place may not be the easiest, but you could always just build what you want. A cute little, two story place would be ideal. Nothing big, but room for some tables for people to enjoy their coffee and food, while conversing or doing whatever they may please. Designing. I love finding the perfect interior designs so decorating the place up would be awesome and it would be my own. Comfortable little seating areas to relax, so that definitely means some couches and chairs along with tables. The tones with be earthy with a hint of pastel colors to bring a nice, relaxing mood to the place. As the counter will be downstairs, there will be stairs leading up to a loft with additional seating. Features. I will make sure to provide some magazines for the readers and free WiFi, well for everyone. There will be music playing throughout, but there will be a way for customers to choose what is playing if they'd like. Upstairs will be a television for customers who would like that for their entertainment. I would also want to eventually have an app for my cafe. I love my Dunkin app and all the awesome deals it includes and would want my customers to experience the same. Food and drink. I would serve all coffee based products, brand and such I have no idea, or maybe I'd make my own? We would also serve tea, hot and cold for the tea heads. As for food, pastries of types will be served. I also want to have a few options such as sandwiches for a variety throughout the day. These are just a few of my ideas for Chelsea's Cafe. Cafe a la Chelsea. Chelsea's coffee and such. The name need's some work. This is my dream and would love it to come true some day. I was in high school once, and believe me, I remember what it was like. It was always a constant battle between trying to find yourself and trying to find yourself a spot in an "it" crowd so you wouldn't be forgotten. Doing both of these simultaneously is not so easy.
You see, for whatever the reason; whether it was just me being a teenage girl or being insecure, part of me cared whether I was popular or not. Homecoming court, I would have loved that 15 minutes of fame to wear a pretty dress. Now, I have no idea why I gave a shit at all, other than I love getting dolled up. Back then, something as stupid as being recognized on a court and feeling popular meant more to me than it ever should have. To this day, I still see high school kids making a big deal out of it. Friends and family congratulate them and express how "proud" they are of them. Uhm, for what? For being categorized as popular and getting some votes? Good fucking job on nothing. Nothing against anyone who has ever been placed on a court or even won something like queen. I know good people who have been categorized as popular and this is not to bring any of them down. My point is, why are we still holding these contests? Are we just continuing a long on going tradition and see no reason to stop? These contests don't teach young kids a thing about what their adult life will be like in my opinion. Sure, you should be nice to others and social to everybody, but if you aren't, you shouldn't be punished. This goes hand in hand with some happenings of teenage suicide. How many times do you hear that a child didn't fit in, they felt bullied or alone, which led to such horrifying consequences. I don't think these contests really help in that. I think we should just forget the whole thing and celebrate ourselves and everyone else. Homecoming is meant to bring alumni back and reunite for the school, not to elect kings and queens. I think we could do without all this extra hassle and stress that is brought onto others because of these events. so if you're reading, don't sweat not being popular. Love yourself and celebrate who you are and that you've made it this far in this crazy life. Let's just say, basic bitches love fall, me included. I've always loved the summer sun, but I also couldn't wait for fall to come around and would prefer it to stay.
I get on anything social media and its constant girls exclaiming "fall fall fall" and I don't discriminate, that's also me. While everyone else watches from afar and frowns upon our excited little souls. Some people ask, why fall? What's so special about those months where the weather can be unpredictable and winter is coming soon? In case you still aren't sure, I'll fill you in. The leaves. What basic girl doesn't wanna take an Instagram of the beautiful changing leaves? They're pretty sweet. Prepare yourselves, the pictures are coming. #nofilter It's not too hot. Well, eventually. Summer can bring some unbearable weather to want to be outside in. For most of fall, the weather is comfortable or you can just throw on a cute jacket. Which brings me too.. The fashion. Fall fashion may be my favorite. Sooo many possibilities. You have the scarves, beanies, flannels and boots! Legging weather is back so every girl is beyond happy. I'm more than ready to wear leggings whenever possible. Pumpkin. Everything. I'm not huge on the pumpkin fad, but bitches love them some pumpkin spice lattes. There's also pumpkin ice cream, pumpkin pie, pumpkin this and that. Drink it up while you can. Apples! I do love apples though. When the apple cider is here, I'm a happy girl. Bring on the apple cider festival. Festivals of the fall. I don't often buy much but going to them are a win for me. Gotta hit up at least one a year, or maybe them all? Apples, potatoes, crafts and pumpkins. What is it about these things that are so fun? Halloween. It's the spookiest time of year and who doesn't wanna be scared? Haunted houses, excuses to indulge in chocolate, dressing up, decorating, corn mazes, and carving pumpkins; if you're not amused, leave. Hot cocoa, tea, and coffee. Warming up with a cup of these, maybe by a fire?; soooooo relaxing. Make a mug and cuddle up. Cuddling. It's not hot. Cuddle your hearts out. Football season. As a fan, go football! It's at least an exciting sport if you're not into it. Try and enjoy it. For the fans, lets go football season! I think I've hit the majors of why fall is bomb. Let's celebrate bitches, it's almost here! |
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