When you were little, the one law every kid abided by was the pinky promise. If you pinky promised someone they could have your chocolate bar the next day, that was it. Done deal. If you didn't hand over the chocolate the following day you were a liar and a cheater.
Even as adults, we continue on with the pinky promise law. If you promise someone anything at all, we all take that to heart. The same as when we were kids, if a promise is broken, we are hurt and hold that person responsible for not keeping their promise. Promises will always be important to us.
That being said, promises and trust are huge in our day to day relationships. Breaking a promise might as well be kissing the trust of someone you love goodbye. I would assume a normal human being would consider promises and trust to be important and valued in their relationships.
Compromise. This word contains the word promise within it. You might be thinking "where is she going with this?" No worries, I'm here to explain my reasoning.
I was thinking about compromises we make in our lives on any given day. We make compromises within our jobs, with our families, our friends, our lovers, or maybe even someone on the street. Our lives are not perfect; we don't get everything we want, when we want it, and how we want it. If you think about it, we are comprising every day even about the smallest of things.
So, linking the two together. When we propose a compromise in our life, we are, in a way, making some sort of a promise to ourselves that we can't have it our way exactly, but we can let some things slide. We are also "promising" the other person/thing that we will understand that every thing is not our way and will do what we can to come to a mutual agreement.
I say "promise" because in this instance we are not making a complete promise. If this promise is broken, it is way more understandable and not endangering anyone's trust. With a compromise, we are stating that we will meet someone half way to the best of our abilities, and that they will do the same.
Maybe it's just me, but I think this makes total sense. Think about this the next time you make a compromise to meet a friend for lunch, or promise someone you will meet them for a drink next weekend. Does it make sense in your life as I have seemed to connect it to mine?
Chelsea Blake: My views on life and writing whatever my heart desires.