I've seen way too many inaccurate posts over the past few days for Fifty Shades of Grey. It's been driving me crazy with all these accusations and opinions people have with this book/movie (not to mention, most people haven't seen the movie yet) and they are just silly. So today, I'm going to go over why I think certain people are taking it too far.
IF YOU DON'T WANT TO READ ANY SPOILERS ABOUT THE FIRST BOOK, MAYBE THE BEGINNING OF THE SECOND, YOU SHOULD NOT CONTINUE. I DON'T PLAN TO GO INTO MUCH MORE DETAIL THAN THE MOVIE TRAILER SHOWS.
So some of the things I've been reading about are how Fifty Shades of Grey is promoting sexual violence and abuse. Uhm what?! These people have clearly not read the book or understood it what-so-ever.
Fifty Shades is about a man who likes a dominance/submission type of "relationship" coming from the abuse he did suffer while he was a child. Having submissive partners is a way for Christian Grey to express the emotions he has built up, while performing sexual acts.
1. This type of behavior has been around for at least 100 years.
This can be a lifestyle choice, or even just random acts of sex for a relationship looking to experiment. People choose this life for themselves and have a say in it. If they are taken advantage of, then yes, that is considered sexual violence or abuse.
2. Because it's a life choice..
You can't throw your opinions about how you're not ok with it and determine that the whole act is bad. People choose this, you don't have to like their choices, but respect them. Calling it abuse is just being incorrect.
3. Did you even read it? These are facts.
If you read the book, it clearly spells out that Mr. Grey has contracts made up for his submissives. These contracts are arranged so that the sub knows what will happening going into this special relationship. They also must sign that they agree. Ana does not like everything about the contract, so does she sign it right then and there? No. She agrees to any "punishments" he goes for. She realizes she doesn't really like it at first but she did say yes originally.
4. Sexual violence
This is unwanted! There is no indication through the book that someone is receiving any unwanted sexual acts. At the time, they agree. Again, because you do not agree with this does not make you right. Not everyone loves vanilla 24/7.
5. It does turn into a relationship
If you actually read on, Ana and Christian care for each other. Even though Christian has been in this specific lifestyle for a long time, he is willing to adjust for this girl he deeply cares for. Am I getting into the second book a little? I'm not sure. Also, Ana is willing to try new things for her man. All consensual here.
6. Why it's not promoting sexual violence
Are you one of those people who strongly believe that video games such as Grand Theft Auto turn normal kids into murderers? Then I can see why you are poorly judging this book/movie. As those games don't bring out a monster that wasn't already there, this movie is not going to bring out a bondage loving guy/girl that isn't already there. Sure, it shows a different type of relationship, but in no way does it promote violating people who don't want it too.
7. Shoving your opinions and beliefs down throats
Stop it. It's obvious that you're not ok with these acts, why else would you be so objective and loud? You can try all you want to make people think this movie is only going bring people to think sexual violence against the unwilling is ok, but most won't listen.
Do yourself a favor, read the book, and I'm gonna go ahead and say watch the movie. I'm sure it's like the book. All people in the book and movie are aware of what is going on and are not experiencing unwanted violent acts.
You may like vanilla, but sometimes you gotta try the rocky road.
Chelsea Blake: My views on life and writing whatever my heart desires.