Ah, the reset button. When your hair dryer randomly won't work, hit reset. When you're losing a level horribly in a game, RESET! When your computer is a piece of shit, reset it first, then smash it.
We all love the reset button; it gives us the fresh start we need in our current situation. We satisfactorily hit restart, breathe in deeply, and begin again with less worries. It feels great, actually amazing. You could say we even overuse the reset button time to time just to get that feeling.
Sadly in life, not everything has a reset button (although we wish they did!) We sometimes wish life had a reset button for the days we just need a do over; a day that is going to shit quick, and we just wanna quit. We wanna hit that button and say, "ok, time to retry that one more time." More than anything else, our brains need a reset button.
Our brains are wired to recognize patterns and fall into habits. When we see or experience a constant pattern, our mind falls into this habit where we get used to these repeated actions. As someone can fall into a habit of smoking a cigarette after each meal, we can fall into a similar habit, like not trusting anyone. If someone constantly lies to us, we start to think everyone may be lying. If we are hurt by one person, we believe everyone will hurt us.
Our mind may not have a physical reset button we can press when we need it, but we need to invent a mental one for ourselves. We can't control the patterns our minds create, but we can begin the mental process of minimizing the effect the pattern has in our lives.
As our mind starts to put together the pattern, we have to mentally hit the reset button to avoid unnecessary hurt and future problems. Just because someone hurt us in the past doesn't mean we should let ourselves think that everyone else will be the same.
After we have been lied to, hurt by someone, or treated a certain way, we need to hit our reset button right away. We can't shelter ourselves from the world just because one or two people decided to treat us poorly. We must stop our mind from the habit of feeling afraid to let someone new in. Not everyone will treat us the same, and we need to take the risk and accept others into our lives.
Even though it's difficult for us to stop our mind from instinctively feeling and thinking a certain reaction, we can put an end to constantly thinking that way. If we tell our minds often enough to stray from a pattern, it will become easier to keep those bad thoughts at bay.
Creating a mental reset button for our mind will help open our life to more possibilities than we had before. Where we would have been afraid to trust someone before, the reset button we imagine can tell us to forget the past and let someone new take the place of the old. We have no way of knowing if someone will treat us right, but we have to take the risk. After all, we have our reset button just in case.
Chelsea Blake: My views on life and writing whatever my heart desires.