Whether you can tell already or not, I am HUGE on honesty and trust. I'm not talking one little white lie that comes up, I'm talking lie after lie, where you lose yourself in the lies and don't realize you're doing it anymore, or maybe you do.
I've been lied to a lot in my life, as I'm sure you have. I've lied before as I'm sure you have. None of us are innocent in this. Even though we all lie, there is a line. Some us choose to stay on honesty's side, the others, cross the line and never look back.
It's a traumatic thing to learn you've been lied to, your world crashes. You think back to the lie/s, how did you not see it? The answer is simple. Trust.
When you love someone, you trust them; trust that they'll never hurt you, trust that they love you enough to be truthful. You also give a certain amount of trust to others in your life, that doesn't hurt as much when broken. When someone you love lies to you, it changes everything.
To be lied to hurts. You find a way to move past it after the apology and promises to never lie again. You believe it. At first, you question some things to be lies, but you shake your head of your thoughts and move on. They wouldn't lie again, would they?
Soon enough, your world falls apart, you've been lied to again. You've been lied to time after time. You didn't see the lies because you wanted to trust someone that badly. They took advantage of you and did one of the most hurtful things they could do.
As I am dealing with this right now, and have been for a while, my advice is limited. When someone hurts you like that, trusting someone ever again is close to impossible. At this moment, I'm afraid to trust anyone and get shot down again.
My best advice for the moment; try not to let that one person ruin it for everyone. It'll take time, how much time, that I'm not sure of. Time is always the solution, right? In time, you hope things will get better and change.
As much as you let that one person ruin it for everyone, we must all try our hardest to let only the honest ones in. I tell everyone, I would rather you be honest no matter the situation than be lied to. Take that seriously, it's the most serious thing I have to say.
If you, the compulsive liar, are reading this; think of the people you hurt, the people you scar for life over this. Actually think the next time you go to lie. Change your mind and just be honest.
Let's all try to move on and trust again. In a world like this, we all need to have trust.
Chelsea Blake: My views on life and writing whatever my heart desires.