If you're anything like me, emotions are your best friend, but not particularly your chosen ones. You know your emotions like the back of head. Yes, I said head, you know them, you know they're there, but they can be unpredictable.
Every time you're happy, you're on top of the world, even if it's only about the fact that you have a day off work. Your happiness shines bright enough to even change another's day. Your excitement for the littlest things makes others wonder why they don't feel that excitement. "I found a dollar! It's the best day ever!"
When you're sad though, you are at your lowest of lows. It's the end of everything when you are that sad. The same is for anger, you go from wimpy to the incredible hulk in 1.2 seconds. Bringing you down from the anger is quite a hard task too.
So this is you, full of over active emotions. Then there's your partner, who you couldn't read if you were the highest level of reader out there. They're happy? How do you know that? Why aren't they showing it?
Some people don't express emotions like us, or they lack of the emotions that we, for the most part, know so well. They are the less emotional, don't they have it so easy?
Do not fear, though, for us emotional can make it work with the lesser. Believe it or not, it's kind of a balance of emotions, so there's not too much or too few emotions in a relationship.
Understand you're the carrier of emotions.
To survive, you must first realize that you are always going to have more emotions. You need to know that when you're both happy, you will be a little happier. During a fight, you might think you care more about fighting for the relationship. You need to remember, your emotions are taking over.
Don't be ashamed.
Don't feel down about having more emotions, because we know that's so easy. It's a common thing, and just because your partner may not understand at first, you have to be patient and wait for them to understand too. You can't make yourself less emotional, you were born with it. Be proud of having the ability to care so much about everything.
"Cry" it out.
Or just sulk. Whatever you have to do. As your partner may not feel the overflow of emotions you are overcome with, take the time to deal with your emotions. Walk away for a minute. Gather yourself, cry, think, whatever needs to happen. Give your emotions a chance to calm down and then get back to the real world.
Be enough for your partner.
Sometimes your partner may seem, for lack of a better word ,jealous of your emotions. They want to feel the way you do, HA who wants that, right? Remind both of you that your emotions can cover the two of you and you can share them. Want some of my happiness? Well here you go.
Remember, you're not alone.
You may at times feel like you're crazy, these emotions are too much for one person. There are others out there and chances are you know someone like you. Again, calm down. You're not alone. There are other couples out there experiencing the same thing.
Balance is part of relationships.
Having a good balance between the two of you is what is needed. If the scale is heavy on one side, things are shaky and no fun. Learning to balance what each of you bring to the table is what is going to be best for your relationship in the long run.
Chelsea Blake: My views on life and writing whatever my heart desires.