Happy "All Marriage is Equal" Day, aside from animals and objects of course.
Today, the GLBT community can rejoice across the Nation as America made it legal for all types of love to tie the knot. As a lot of states had already made this move, this day will shine in history as the day our Nation declared it legal in all 50.
As with any big movement, it's caused controversy throughout the country. While many celebrate the equality, others express their hate for it and exclaim how wrong it is. Social media is booming with people's opinions and why each other wrong.
I'm here to express my opinion, not to call out on others saying their opinion is wrong. I may strongly disagree with someone, but all I can do is possibly sway your opinion through my article.
I grew up with a close family; mother, father, brother and sister. As a child, I had to attend church, it was how I raised. Bible verses were memorized, right from wrong in the religious sense was taught. At a young age, I honestly didn't know much of homosexuality or related topics.
As I grew older, I protested against standardized religion and rarely ever attended church. Why? There are so many ways to interpret or misinterpret the bible and everything within it. I chose to determine for myself what to and not to believe.
My parents are religious and also to an extent not as, let's say "open minded" as my generation is. The older generations in majority seem to not agree with gay marriage or even for people to be gay. Some just feel that "if they don't see it, they don't care."
There are many in my generation as well who seem to be strongly against it, most of which seem to come from religious beliefs. I've seen things like "sin is now legal, I've lost faith in America, blah blah tragedy." Question, are you serious?
It's fine if you want to be against it, but why does it being legal pertain to you? This does not effect you in any way. If this is a huge sin, we who support it will suffer, correct? The entire world will not be punished, America is really no worse, just happier.
When I saw, sin being legal, I was astonished. Isn't sex before marriage a sin? Yet, that is indeed legal, or at least not illegal. Drinking and drugs, are they not sins? The 10 commandments, do people not break those all the time with no punishment?
In my opinion, if you dislike that we as a Nation allow GLBT, you should disregard it as it does not effect you, or move if you are that hurt by it.
I for one am happy that America has passed this and all couples can be married everywhere. I'm a sucker for love and don't discriminate against any kind. As I am straight myself, I still want everyone to be happy with whomever makes them happy.
I hope in some way I spoke to those disagreeing to see from a different point of you. Everyone has their opinion, and I respect that. #Lovewins has been trending today. I would want to see that come true thoughout the nation for one another.
In closing, let us celebrate the equality we have gained today. Rejoice for the progress America has made as a country. Be happy for those who were greatly effected by the news today.
Celebrate love, for it is an amazing feeling.
We can try all we want, try and avoid it, but it's somehow unavoidable. Without even knowing it, girls, we pick men similar to our father.
Being a daddy's girl, that should be perfect right? I'm his little girl, so my ideal man will think the same. He'll protect me, attack anyone who messes with me, and give me money whenever I give him that look.
As there are good qualities my dad has that I always hoped my man would, there are always a few habits or qualities I could live without.
No one is perfect, but you've lived with these habits from your father all your life. Now you have to marry the same guy?
Whether we like it or not, these are the similarities between the two men we love most.
Their sense of humor.
My daddy has always been funny, in this strange funny type of way. I find my sense of humor similar to his, but find my man's to be practically the same. At least I can always have a laugh right?
Their protective instinct.
My men are so protective of me. Neither of them can stand to see me cry and I love it. They will do anything they can to put me first and fight for me.
My dad was always my biggest fan and knew when I needed him to be there for me. My man knows when I need him, and does everything he can to be there.
Their impulse to make you happy.
Both of them hate to see me unhappy. My dad will do the silliest things, like show off stupid dance moves, sing to me, or even send a cute text because he knows I want that. My man is the same way. He will do whatever it takes to make me happy if I'm not, or even when I am.
I found that my dad and my man have some similar interests. They both love working outside and playing with guns. It's crazy how similar our men can be.
In ways, I can see where my men are alike in this category. They make such similar mistakes as the other it's unbelievable. Even so, I love them both regardless.
So don't freak if you're dating a guy that is like your father. If you grew up loving your daddy like I have, you'll know you made the right decision.
One of our biggest mistakes as humans is not knowing when to shut up. We speak before we think all the time and immediately want to rewind and take it back. There are so many times I didn't take a second to think what I was going to say and caused the next war of my life.
How many battles do we face that could be avoided? How many times have you ruined a perfectly good time by saying something that maybe didn't need to be said? This is why we need to think of the reaction we are going to get out of what we say.
War is for the serious problems at hand. It should not occur as often as it does in our lives and we need to take action! We need to limit our war count, our lives shouldn't have more wars than the world goes through. As much as we dislike war in the world, we need to dislike it in our lives as well.
To limit our battles in life, we should take actions like these to make love more often than war!
Is my thinking logical?
Am I thinking clearly whatsoever? Maybe bringing up the past from 5 years ago isn't the best thing to be upset about. If it's something about irrelevant events that happened in the past, don't worry about it. If it sounds a little crazy in your head, don't blurt it out. If there's a little chance that it's crazy, sit on that idea for a while until it turns out it is crazy and don't say it.
Is this issue worth a battle?
Some things should definitely be talked over, just watch how you say it. If the issue should be discussed, but not fought about, be calm. Sit down with someone and ask to have a conversation, not shout and start shooting right off the start. Think about the issue and determine how big the issue is, it may not actually be worth it.
Is the battle old?
There is no need to have the battle of hell part 1, 2, 3 and so on. If the battle is reoccurring, that may need to be dealt with further and decided on if it's worth reentering the battle.
Will I want to take it back?
We all know once something is said, there is no undo button. We need to think about if there's any chance we will regret what we just started. This way is a great away to avoid a fight.
Can't we just make love?
Love is such a better word than war. We should choose love as often as we can! No one wants to fight, it's awful. Striving to ignore the little battles and love instead is what we need in this world.
MAKE LOVE, NOT WAR!
If you're anything like me, emotions are your best friend, but not particularly your chosen ones. You know your emotions like the back of head. Yes, I said head, you know them, you know they're there, but they can be unpredictable.
Every time you're happy, you're on top of the world, even if it's only about the fact that you have a day off work. Your happiness shines bright enough to even change another's day. Your excitement for the littlest things makes others wonder why they don't feel that excitement. "I found a dollar! It's the best day ever!"
When you're sad though, you are at your lowest of lows. It's the end of everything when you are that sad. The same is for anger, you go from wimpy to the incredible hulk in 1.2 seconds. Bringing you down from the anger is quite a hard task too.
So this is you, full of over active emotions. Then there's your partner, who you couldn't read if you were the highest level of reader out there. They're happy? How do you know that? Why aren't they showing it?
Some people don't express emotions like us, or they lack of the emotions that we, for the most part, know so well. They are the less emotional, don't they have it so easy?
Do not fear, though, for us emotional can make it work with the lesser. Believe it or not, it's kind of a balance of emotions, so there's not too much or too few emotions in a relationship.
Understand you're the carrier of emotions.
To survive, you must first realize that you are always going to have more emotions. You need to know that when you're both happy, you will be a little happier. During a fight, you might think you care more about fighting for the relationship. You need to remember, your emotions are taking over.
Don't be ashamed.
Don't feel down about having more emotions, because we know that's so easy. It's a common thing, and just because your partner may not understand at first, you have to be patient and wait for them to understand too. You can't make yourself less emotional, you were born with it. Be proud of having the ability to care so much about everything.
"Cry" it out.
Or just sulk. Whatever you have to do. As your partner may not feel the overflow of emotions you are overcome with, take the time to deal with your emotions. Walk away for a minute. Gather yourself, cry, think, whatever needs to happen. Give your emotions a chance to calm down and then get back to the real world.
Be enough for your partner.
Sometimes your partner may seem, for lack of a better word ,jealous of your emotions. They want to feel the way you do, HA who wants that, right? Remind both of you that your emotions can cover the two of you and you can share them. Want some of my happiness? Well here you go.
Remember, you're not alone.
You may at times feel like you're crazy, these emotions are too much for one person. There are others out there and chances are you know someone like you. Again, calm down. You're not alone. There are other couples out there experiencing the same thing.
Balance is part of relationships.
Having a good balance between the two of you is what is needed. If the scale is heavy on one side, things are shaky and no fun. Learning to balance what each of you bring to the table is what is going to be best for your relationship in the long run.
Everyone is always looking for love. You want in a relationship, now, and nothing is going to stop you. You're searching high and low for the perfect person because being single is old and you're sick of being the third wheel.
With Valentine's Day just passing and today being Single Awareness Day, you're terribly aware that you have yet to find a relationship and you're valentine was your bed and Netflix. This is it, you will find someone!
Yet, that is the problem. You are desperate for love and will end up settling for someone who isn't right. No one can blame you, many of us have been there. We also know that this is the worst way to get into a relationship.
Forcing love with someone who you normally wouldn't fall for isn't healthy for a relationship. This is why you should take a minute, and stop.
Even though looking for love seems best, waiting for love is better. Here's why:
1. It is not forced.
When you wait for love to come around, it comes naturally. When you are looking at every person you meet as a potential partner, you are digging for things you like about this person. You're trying to put together a love that would not otherwise exist. Do you ever like to be forced to do something or forced to make a decision? Being forceful, even when forcing love, will not work.
2. You'll miss out on the real thing.
While you're out trying to make relationships, the real thing may be right in front of you and you'll be too busy to notice. Had you just been single a little while longer, love would have found you sooner.
3. It's an instant connection.
When love finds you, it's great. You found someone, without looking, and it's better than those fake relationships. This is love, blooming, and I guarantee you'll like it a lot better than anything else.
4. You'll appreciate the time you spent single.
A relationship is great and all, but the time you spend single in your life can teach you a lot about yourself and how you do independently. You must perfect your single-self before you get into a serious relationship. If you're running around looking for a relationship, you might not be ready for one yet.
5. You'll have no regrets.
When you find love without looking, you won't regret anything decisions or time wasted before hand. When finding a good relationship, it's hard to find things you regret with something like that in your life. No one wants regret, avoiding making that happen is the best way.
Chelsea Blake: My views on life and writing whatever my heart desires.