As humans, we know that we are flawed. We make mistakes, we fall down; we are far from perfect.
With that being said, we sometimes feel as if we are so flawed, that we don't deserve better than what we have. We believe that what we have is what we deserve, and that often leads to us drown in a constant sea of despair.
This needs to end. We are better than that. Why are we limiting ourselves because others make us feel hopeless and useless? Just because we are flawed, most certainly does not mean we deserve less than someone else.
In every day relationships, people can make us feel awful. We are ridiculed to the point that we believe we deserve what we are getting. That's far from true. We deserve better than those who are bringing us down.
Try this every morning when you wake up; look in the mirror and tell yourself you deserve the best. This is the corniest thing ever but you need to hear it. You need to then believe it.
Rather than believing how people are making us feel, we need to listen to those close to us who are whispering we deserve more than that. That is the truth hiding under it all.
Don't let anyone let you think you deserve less. We are all human and deserve the best.
We all played the game of tag when we were kids. Running like maniacs through the yard, never wanting to be "it" and would quickly dodge whoever was. Being "it" was the worst.
As adults, we find ourselves to be "it" often and it never seems to be fun now either. We have to make decisions. We have to choose people to be in our lives or not. We have to choose who to chase after, or not.
We are "it." We hate it. What if we choose wrong? What if we chase after the one we cannot catch? Life is a game of tag and we are all just trying to win.
I'm "it" way too often in life, and decision making is not my strong suite. I also surround myself with others who can't make decisions so our little game of tag is endless! We never choose.
I am choosing to no longer be "it" all the time. I'm tired of chasing after people. I wanna play the game for once as the free one, running through the open yard, waiting to be caught.
Now, when I say I'm done being "it," I don't mean it for everything. I still want to chase after my dreams, in that way, I will always choose to be "it."
When it comes to others though, come and get me. I'm no longer "it." I'm as free as a bird and as light as a feather.
Are you playing tag in my life right now? If so, try and catch me!
When coming out of a long term relationship, there are so many mixed emotions. On the one hand, you're mourning the relationship, the ex love, and the future you were promised. On the other hand, you now have this whole new, fresh life awaiting you and your arrival to it.
As you should take time to mourn what was to be, you must also move past it and embrace what's ahead of you! Remember those parts of the ex-future you weren't really looking forward to, erase that! You were given the chance to start a new future.
Even though you had a future set up and some bastard tore it away, don't worry about it. You have the power to set up an even better future without them.
The breakup may still hurt, but here's what you have to look forward to in your new single life.
You have complete freedom.
No one to throw their opinions in your face and change your mind. Nothing holding you back. You are free. Do you, be you, and have a hell of a good time!
You have a fresh start.
No past. No baggage.It's time to meet new people and see new places. It's like you get a new life to test out and see where it takes you. Everyone loves a fresh start.
You can do those single things you couldn't before.
Talking to randoms in bars and staying out until whenever. Watching Netflix without worrying if the other person likes what you picked. It's really the simple things.
You have more time for yourself and others.
This is a time to find yourself again. Do even more things alone and find out who you are now without them. Spend more time with friends and meet new people.
You can focus on a new future.
Your future is gonna be different now but that can be a good thing. Make it better than it was previously planned. Show everyone you can make a better life for yourself, by yourself.
You can make that future better.
It's so nice to look back and see that you are improving your life while the other one gets left behind. Breathe a sigh of relief because you dodged a bullet on that one. You're life is getting better.
Chelsea Blake: My views on life and writing whatever my heart desires.