This is for all the genuinely nice people out there. The people who are nice to everyone, unless someone does something to hurt them. The ones who will still treat you nicely even if you're a shitty person toward them.
If you are this person, welcome to the club. Where you just want everyone to get along but people keep shutting you down. Oh and we are also known as the door mats, please step all over us and wipe your feet on the way through.
If you know exactly what I'm talking about, it's a rough world out there. You see and experience altercations every day but you're looking to get past them and just be happy. You'd rather be friends or at least civil with others because confrontation bothers you.
Unfortunately the world we live in can't give you that. No matter how hard you try, there will be people who thrive on drama, or they just cant seem to find it in them to move on.
We peace keepers are still wishing and trying for the world where people put aside first impressions or mistakes and get on with their lives. Sadly, we still wait.
Good and bad, this is what we deal with in life.
1. We mess up and it haunts us forever.
When we would love to just get past a mistake we made and live life, the others won't let us. They hold this against us and don't let us redeem ourselves.
2. We'll be known as door mats.
We get walked all over. We put nice first because we don't want to have to be mean. Mean is left for after we stick up for ourselves and that doesn't go well. People take advantage of the that.
3. We're very polite.
We don't really care if you're a dick, we still will please and thank you the shit out of a conversation. Our cheery tone will also be used, don't you worry about that.
4. People label us as friendly.
We are usually called friendly and others often admire that we can be so nice to people who don't always deserve it. High five!
5. We seem to lose often.
Since we are striving for everyone to get along, we find ourselves losing. We realize we can't fix all relationships between people so we feel like we have failed.
6. It's just who we are.
Deep down, we know the ups and downs to who we are. Although it may suck sometimes, we're not changing and will forever keep trying.
First off, I just want to say that you should never change because someone else thinks you should or wants you to. It may be tempting to make someone happy but if you are not happy with the changes you'd be making, then don't even think about it.
So change. Change is good. Change happens all the time. People are changing all the time whether they know it or not. Change is a part of life that we do have to learn to deal with and accept it. We cannot change, change. Whoaaaa.
What are we talking about again? To want to make changes in your life is a normal, healthy thing; unless of course the change is bad. Wanting to change for the better is a good thing. You should be looking to better yourself all the time. Learn to love yourself, but if you want to be a better you, you have to make those changes on your own.
Making changes is never easy; you want to be more caring, less jealous, look different, become smarter, or be happier. Any changes you want to make to your life do not come easy, otherwise, you would already naturally be that way. We have to want the change and make it happen.
From experience, changing those little things can take a long time, sometimes they don't even completely change. Sometimes, you must settle for what you are or how much you've changed thus far, because to change more would just not be you.
Saying that, don't get way too caught up in making changes. Trying to change so many things about yourself will only drive you crazy, not to mention turn you into a completely different person.
So don't be afraid to change for you, wanting to better yourself is a normal thing. The struggle to reach that "you" is a long road though. Be ready to travel down the long, bumpy path to become the person you ultimately want to be. During this adventure, don't forget, accepting who you are and loving it is all part of the journey to becoming who you want to be in life.
Tattoos, almost permanent ink on someone's body in the form of script or design. In other words, a super awesome, sexy way to express yourself.
I am a lover of tattoos. Ink me up, it's addicting! Tattoos are a form of art we display and our bodies are the canvas.
Unfortunately, they can cost some money so you can't always go crazy like you would like or have to postpone getting one. Once that money is in your hand though you better believe your next idea is already drawn out and ready.
Choosing what you want is a very important part. No one should just rush in and be too impulsive. I suggest you should be ok with your idea for at least 3 months before investing in a big idea and regretting it later. Nobody wants to pay even more money to try and remove their ink.
There are a lot people out there who diss us, the ink addicts. They say we'll regret our tattoos later in life, when we're old. Where are your tattoos located? Imagine yourself old and think if your tattoos will really bother you at 80. I don't plan on wearing crop tops to show off my side tattoos then, so if they look silly, alright.
So if you don't have a tattoo and are considering one, here are some things to know before you go get one, because you know you want one!
1. Consider the placement.
Unfortunately, some jobs still don't allow tattoos. So if that is possibly a factor, find places on your body you can easily cover up. If you don't care, just pick. Find the perfect place you want to show off your art and settle on it.
2. Deciding what you want.
This decision is huge. You don't want to decide on something too fast and regret it in the long run. Is it just an awesome piece? Is it to commemorate someone? Sit on it for at least 3 months to see how you feel. If you find yourself fading from the idea, don't get it. You need to love your decision before you commit.
3. Can you afford it?
Make sure you have the money for it, tattoos are usually not too cheap and if they are, you may not want to trust them. Go check out some places and get a price for what you want.
4. Don't go too big on the first one.
You shouldn't go for a big piece on your first try. Baby steps are the best way to start out.
5. It doesn't hurt too bad to get one.
Yes, tattoos hurt, but do they really hurt that much? I don't know one person that thought their tattoo was terribly painful. While you're getting it, you are pretty excited for the finishing product. It's not bad at all to sit through one. Although, some spots are worse so make sure if you don't like pain, you research.
6. It's so worth it.
Once it's done and you take good care of it, you'll be in love. This is where the addiction may begin. This new conversation piece, fashion statement, ink art, or memorial is part of your life now. Show it off and love your tattoo!
Now go get started on that ink!
Chelsea Blake: My views on life and writing whatever my heart desires.